Situational emotions and how to overcome

Buddha said " Desire is the root cause of all evil". I'm going to break this down to understand focus on an emotional path. Desire, wanting something. Can be good or bad. On an emotional path desire can lead to happiness or sadness. We'll talk about the sadness aspect. We desire to get back to normal or where our life used to be. We desire to break the sadness. These desires mixed with your current emotions cause what I call emotional turmoil. They are two conflicting emotions that your brain is struggling to separate and resolve. Our goal is to separate and conquer. We need to focus! First step, focus on yourself. I always recommend reading motivational books. Autobiographies, self-help, inspiration, anything that takes focus to read. It's easy to get absorbed in a sci-fi or romance novel. The second part of focus, is meditating. I do two forms of meditation. Sitting still allowing thoughts to enter and leave. The second is active meditation. Think spo...

When you are facing that initial sadness from being broken up with, how do you act? Do you not do anything? Sit at home? Cry? Stare at pictures? Have you thought about doing something you love? Writing, drawing, coloring, exercise? This is probably the last thing from your mind, but research shows this is the best thing to change your state. Now, let me clarify. I'm not saying it's not OK to be sad. What, I am saying is don't be sad all day! I know easier said then done but, the quicker you can break the cycle the easier it is to get back to "regular" or better. I prefer better. The idea is to acknowledge the emotions you're experiencing, realize they will happen. Then to move past them. If we dwell on them, that's when it gets harder to replace them. Our goal should never to eliminate an emotion! Every emotion has a use. As long as we understand that certain emotions are designed to tell us we need a change. Sadness, anger, jealousy, these emotio...

Have you ever been watching t.v and a commercial came on that tugged your heart strings? Made you tear up a little, then the commercial ended and your back to normal? That would be the start of situational emotions. Something that caused a specific set of emotions. From happy to sad. Can be anything. Let's take it a step further. Say you have a bad break up. Your mood doesn't resolve for a few weeks or longer. You start questioning if your ever gonna get back to normal. A lot of people go through this. A few weeks to a few months then you are back to normal. Now in extreme cases people will keep these emotions with them for years or start to develop depression or other mood disorders. If this is the case I recommend seeing a licensed professional. I personal don't offer the knowledge and expertise to help with cases of depression or other mood disorders. If mistreated it can make matters worse I have depression myself which I see a consumer for, but I also use my...

Hello, my name is Thomas! I am so glad you decided to read this blog. Before I go to in depth about what my goals are, I want to tell you about myself and why I am writing this for others! And what lead me down this path. It started sometime in August of 2013. My wife (now ex) filed for divorce. I was stunned, shocked, speechless, angry...so many emotions were built up. At first I refused to sign the papers (control of events). I later started thinking of why I was refusing then gave in ( rationalization). During this time it took about a day or two for me to just say fuck it and sign the papers. I tried to convince her we could work this out (begging, bartering). She of course refused. I then made the decision to move to another state and get away from this (avoidance). As I sat on a bus for 3 days I felt that by me moving and trying to "work " on myself we could get back together (delusion). The reality was something completely different. Oct 1 2013. when reality ( rat...